Wednesday, January 4, 2012

Small and Simple Things

I have to admit, I'm not a very big fan of the Christmas holiday in general.  In the past, it has represented rabid crowds, coming up with gift ideas for my children of toys they don't need, commercialism of a holiday that literally starts before Halloween, and trying sometimes to no avail to teach my children the "real meaning of Christmas" amidst the much more exciting noise of Santa.  I am so leery of spoiling them, that I feel obligated to come up with a plethora of ways to earn points towards varying service projects…and then invariably give them too many presents on Christmas.  So this year I determined that Christmas would be different.  Simpler.  In the cause of seizing the day, I normally buy tickets for different plays, musicals, the ballet, Tabernacle Choir concert, Savior of the World play, etc. attempting to create meaningful memories for my family.  But this year, besides the events the children were in, we attended NO Christmas events.  I also intentionally signed up for fewer obligations:  being in charge of school Christmas parties, volunteering to bring food to this or that event, etc.  And guess what?  It was by far much more spiritual, calm, and enjoyable.  I was able to take the time to enjoy the smaller, less loud things that happened instead of them being masked by much louder substitutes.  Here are some of the simple things I was able to revel in and be thankful for this Christmas:

A completely spontaneous apology on the part of
a very strong willed girl

A preschool program where Ashton refused to sing a word,
but I managed to catch him smiling.

The joy of a candy cane


Taking pictures of my beautiful sister 1 week
before giving birth


Holding my sister's baby, Harper, minutes after birth


Starting a new tradition of donut making on Christmas Eve.
It was a hit!

My brother, the designated ass in the nativity play, carrying
his daughter on his back.


Watching the kids rough housing before Christmas Eve began.
How they all love big brother Christian.


Christian attempting to thank Madison by
hugging her for her homemade present.  Her
trying not to be hugged, even though I think
she liked it a bit.

Robert's un-contained glee over his surprise present:
a snow cone maker.  LOVE that smile!


Madison's shrill scream of delight over a 1 cent poster I got on ebay.  


Christmas Eve pajama pictures that actually worked!


A game of charades.  This is my Mom acting out an
admiring cow at the birth of Jesus.  HAHAHAHA!


Ashton hugging E. in thanks for her giving him one of her
favorite stuffed animals…with a pen so he can draw on it.


Realizing my almost 13 year old still calls me "Mama"--even
in front of her friends
Look at Hunter's face!!  They get Christmas Eve pjs every year so you would think
they would be used to it, but Hunter thinks he's won the lottery in this picture!

My Dad as Santa, and Christian who is apparently
still not too big to sit on Santa's lap.

--My children being overly generous in donating their money to the Sub-for-Santa family we sponsored.

--The woman's tears of gratitude when we dropped off presents for her family of 13 children.  She hadn't known that she was being sponsored until the day before we came so she was prepared for no presents at all for her children.

--Madison's heartfelt poems to Robert and I as Christmas presents.

--Lots of dates with Robert because the kids are finally old enough to babysit themselves!

--After a long 2 week Christmas break, Robert taking all the kids swimming for family night without me so I could lay in bed and watch tv.

The simple things are the things that bring true joy.

My friend posted this quote, that in the essence of simplicity, I decided to make my goal for this year:

"This year, mend a quarrel. Seek out a forgotten friend. Dismiss suspicion and replace it with trust. Write a letter. Give a soft answer. Encourage youth. Manifest your loyalty in word and deed. Keep a promise. Forgo a grudge. Forgive an enemy. Apologize. Try to understand. Examine your demands on others. Think first of someone else. Be kind. Be gentle. Laugh a little more. Express your gratitude. Welcome a stranger. Gladden the heart of a child. Take pleasure in the beauty and wonder of the earth. Speak your love and then speak it again." --Howard W. Hunter.

8 comments:

Krissy Noel said...

Steven was a great ass wasn't he? Those donuts were divine we have GOT to do that again and I can't wait to see my preggo pictures (even though I am incredibly self conscious). I am so grateful you were able to be there at the hospital to meet Harper!!!

Julie said...

We have so many wonderful memories from this years Christmas activities. The dinner and breakfast were stupendous. Perhaps the greatest gift of all was the birth of Harper Noel. Mom & Dad

Julie said...

I loved all the meaningful things you did with the kids trying to teach them the true meaning of Christmas. It was still A LOT. No wonder you're tired! Slow down a bit! Never have I seen a mother so diligent and focused as you when it comes to teaching her children about gospel principles. I especially liked that quote at the end by Pres. Hunter. It encourages us to set goals that are spiritual in nature, not just lose 10 pounds, etc.

DrFlynnDMD said...

It was a great Christmas and yes I love my snow cone machine--I've already had about a dozen snow cones! This is what life is all about -- enjoyment of eternal families.

Carolyn Flynn said...

Sounds like a fabulous Christmas. We had a few Christmas's growing up where we made gifts for each other. Those were more fun and more memorable than any store bought gifts we ever got.

CAROLYN

Juliann said...

You always have SO much going on. :) I feel the same about Christmas, but have really tried to have a better attitude and make it all about the kids. I NEED to meet Harper!!! What an angel!

Julie said...

Robert, will you make me a snow cone next time I come over? My favorite kind is cherry.

Life's New Adventures at home said...

Simpler is so much nicer. On a mission Christmas is always simpler. Simpler keeps the focus on the Savior and on our families. Our highlight was visiting with family members via Skype. We still have a couple of families that we are looking forward to seeing.